Take a Bow

Good morning my friends! Here is what's on my mind and then I have to get busy.

Know when to close the Curtains:

As we all know, every relationship has it's problems, issues, and shortcomings. However, if you make that relationship struggle your life, your social media, your home, and your world, guess what, there is no escape. You become your own issue. At a certain point and time you not only exhaust yourself, but you exhaust your audience that you share the same issues with day in and day out. There is a time and a season for everything under the sun. Some people's time and season last longer than others and I get that. But I also understand that we can control certain things as we go through our seasons. Grief HURTS, losing someone HURTS, being lied to and cheated on HURTS, being done wrong HURTS. So why continue to wallow in that hurt by reliving it every waking moment and every written post of your life. We claim that God's got it, but if the truth be told HE will never have it if you continue to give it life. Why would HE waste time erasing the pain when as soon as the eraser hits the paper you are adding more writing after the period... If it's over, let it be over. If they hurt you let it be. At some point you have to realize that your hurt is making you look just as stupid and just as bad and messy as the person that wronged you. You can't bury the hatchet and Give it to God if you leave the handle sticking up. Bury the whole thing and then confess with your mouth that HE is God all by Himself and believe in your heart that HE will take care of you. Jealous and angry outbursts and slick comments only shows the world your weakness and your pettiness. Grieve but don't grieve too long, cry but don't cry too long, be angry but don't be angry too long, hurt but don't hurt too long, struggle but don't struggle too long. Allow your season to come and go by putting it all in God's hands, not the world, not your boy or your girl, and definitely not on social media..... Christian people do Christian things at all times. If you slip OK cool, who are we to judge, but don't slip the same way next time. When you know better you do better. Get your control back and stop being the puppet on a string entertaining social media with your relationship problems. How about a round of applause and let the curtain close on that...... And there it is! ~Dr. Rock Ramsey ~ #HappyFriday😊

The Ice Bucket Challenge

After researching clearly there is a difference between showering people to death and pouring a bucket of ice water on someone's head. People will find away to dehumanize any act of solidarity be it for a good cause or not. It bothers me how these overly historic people try to take a piece of history and apply to evolving times and a changing world. The world is so bent with mm negativity that you can rest assured that someone will find away to find the bad in the good. Running a cold shower over a convicts head for punishment is not a far cry but a pathetic cry when compared to pouring a bucket of ice water on someone's head.. and in this case it's not meant for punishing criminals... Go figure on this one. Close resemblance but different procedure and different cause.

Embrace the Sunlight

Some of us have been in the storm so long that when the rain finally stops we don't know how to embrace the sunlight... Don't ruin your sunny days by reflecting on the last storm and anticipating the next. Seasons change so embrace the change...Have a Great night My Friends! #cloudyWithAchanceOfSunshine

What's Really Happening?

People are getting the protest and march going on in Ferguson twisted. It is not just a black and white issue it's a justice issue. It just so happen to be that there is a lot of unjustified killings going on that involves Caucasian Americans killing African Americans. If an African American kills another African American there is justice, if an African American kills a Caucasian American, there's justice.. So why can't African Americans killed by Caucasian Americans get the same justice???? The protest is about injustice more than anything in my opinion.... I'm Marilyn Wiley and I approve my own message!!!

Where Change Begins

Society wants African Americans to "act right" and be "law abiding citizens" but then when they do, it's still not enough to keep them safe. If you provoke them, and they react...you kill them... If you provoke them and they don't react... You kill them...So now what Mr. Officer?..........You can't kill your Black President, so you kill the next best thing you can and get away with... THE BLACK MAN???

I am Black but I don't let race determine who I am or who I love. Because I love in a Godly way, I don't see color, I see people. Just as I watch the foolishness and racist acts of those killing our people, I've also watched kids of all colors, race, and creed be tormented bullied and abused. However, it's not the act of a nation, it's the act of the individual that chooses to take matters in their Own hands when they don't like or understand something. It was a great nation that elected the POTUS and past Presidents... The nation, though divided by opinion came together to do something in unison. But hatred is an individual thing that becomes a collective thing if enough people take part in it. It's not the nation that needs to change it's the individual that needs to change. Once that happens we will become 1 Great Nation under GOD and HIM alone. Then and only then will these unjustified killings of black people (men in particular) and all people end. ~Ms. Marilyn Wiley, MSPSYCH, Doctoral Candidate~

Before You Judge

Before I close my eyes there is one thing that I must say that I am in turmoil about... As inhumane as it may sound, and although I do not agree with it, I can see and understand why some people may say or view suicide as a selfish and cowardly act. Although it is not fair to judge a person on their tolerance and endurance for mental agony pain and suffering, it is explainable how those left behind may resort to their own selfish feelings and emotions and lash out in anger and out of hurt. They may say out of raw emotions that it was stupid, dumb, coward-like or the easy way out and may even compare their situation or situations to the person that couldn't hang on for dear life. We as humans are so quick to judge based on our own principles and morals and can't see passed the judgment factor when condemning others. So I understand both sides as I have to be objected in order to help and make sense of all involved parties and feelings. Just as we would say in a horror movie that a person was dumb or stupid because they went outside to check, that outburst was fueled by heightened excitement and emotion. The same thing happens when people die or hurt themselves. How many of us have jumped off of furniture or something and hurt ourselves and got yelled at or a spanking for getting hurt? Weird I know but true... Sympathy works both ways.. You have to sympathize with the lost and those left behind experiencing the lost. I'm sure during a flood of emotion there will be blame and there will be genuine condolences. People get mad when people die from drinking and driving (how could they be so stupid) but have known all along the person had a drinking problem. Same thing.. Alcoholism is a disease... which ultimately caused suicide in a sense.... Take that and put it with mental illness and it's a recipe for disaster.

So I wouldn't be so quick to condemn everyone that says the easy way out is cowardly. Although there are many heartless people among us some people are just overly hurt and pained and are lashing out emotionally. Know the difference if you plan to help. Find out if they are just being insensitive and malicious by saying it or if there is a deep rooted underlying issue that they haven't dealt with....

Stop Playing The Victim

Before I start my work let me drop this on you for the free....

Today is stop playing the victim day. Take responsibility for where you are in your life. All the things that have happened to you and will happen to you may not all be in your control but you control how you let it affect you.

Re-evaluate yourself.... Check out your timeline.. If everyday you are having a constant collage of pity party posts, chances are you are not a victim but an enabler.. you are enabling people to control or dictate your mood and behavior. Victims have no control from the onset but once they realize they've been hood-winked and bamboozled, it's at that point they decide to continue with the victimization or become a Victor over the circumstances.

As humans we look for the opportunity to blame because we are too weak and too coward- like to own up to the fact that we are responsible for our situation. It's time to learn from mistakes, choose friends wisely, and make better decisions that affect our lives. We put ourselves in positions and then cry victim when no one understands or wants to help. Stop it! It's not always about you and how others have wronged you... You did it to yourself 9 times out of 10.....

Don't get me wrong, there are victims among us but some of you need to get over it already and change you! When you change yourself, you will be amazed how your circumstances will change and how you will change from a self made victim to a self proclaimed Victor! Have a great Friday My Friends! And there it is.. ~Dr. Rock Ramsey~