Reject Me Not

What I've learned:

Rejection is not always about you. Rejection is God's direction. And it keeps you from that which is not meant for you in the long run. Rejection will have you feeling like something less than you are, until you realize that rejection is the result of someone else's vision, not about you, your value, or your inability to perform. The issue is not with you, but with their personal vision. Just because people can't see value doesn't mean it's not there. People can't rightfully assign value to you.

A lot of depression is due to self-loathing or feeling down on yourself due to rejection. But what I've learned is that your life never loses its value no matter what you go through, what storms you may face, and definitely not because of human rejection. Always remember...No matter what a $100 bill goes through, whether being ripped, torn, folded, balled up, dropped in the mud, or used/misused by many hands, at the end of the day its still worth $100. Think about it. Your Value And Self Worth Never Decreases even if YOU or someone else think it does.

So please understand, rejection is a result of people's issues not yours. It may just be their preference. Most times, people make unfounded assessments and assumptions about others before making fair assessments about themselves. It's their personal preference, lack of knowledge or inability to see your value, your worth, and what you really have to offer, during their assessment, that causes the rejection. You Are Worthy and Valued regardless.😘 #AndThereItIs #CheersMyFriends
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The Art of Problem Solving

Many people have the same problems, troubles, and issues. The difference comes with how each person choose to deal with, handle, or solve the problems. There are no cookie-cutter ways to dealing with life and perhaps no easy way out at times. But that's when you stop and put all the cards on the table and find solutions and use your creative mind to make it through. Take time to be frustrated or a minute to worry if you must. But after that minute, suck it up and put your big boy boots and big girl panties on and find a way to GitRdone... Spend more time on finding solutions than on worrying about the problem and things will work out before you know.  Have a Happy Sunday My Friends!

The Proposal

Warning!!!!!!!! If you plan on asking me to marry you, please don't do it in front of family and friends, as I will need a 90 day probationary period to think about it before I answer. During that 90 day probationary period, you will be required to exchange cell phones and passwords among us from the moment you ask. After those things have been vetted appropriately between the two, I'll give you my acceptance or denial. If I say yes, then you can plan the surprise moment to publicly ask, on 1 knee, with a ring in front of an audience.

Many people say yes for the crowd and the moment, but hasn't come to their own decision or reconciled all their feelings before being popped the question in front of an audience of people and onlookers. As a result, people end up getting married to the wrong person for the sake of not ruining the surprise moment, or embarrassing the one who proposed. But I'd rather embarrass someone with an "I'll think about it" or "I'm not ready yet", than to leave them to rectify a broken heart after a loveless, pressured marriage, that ends in a bitter and emotional divorce.

Many people say yes, in hopes that they will grow to love the other person or fall in love as time passes. Others say yes because it's their Baby Momma or Baby Daddy. And, others say yes as a business deal and once the money leaves so do they. So, instead of saying yes for the wrong reasons and at a time when you know you aren't ready, how about having the discussion and the shared feelings, emotions, goals, beliefs, and desires that should accompany the proposal and potential lifetime commitment. I feel that taking this step will minimize marriage commitments made under false pretenses, and ultimately lower the divorce rates, and the number of children being dragged into custody battles and dysfunctional family environments.

You see, what I've learned, is that marriage is a serious commitment that requires personal sacrifice, but not something I have to have to make me complete. To know my worth is to know that marriage is not for everyone, and that I will always be worthy with or without a marriage proposal.

Furthermore, to know my worth, is to know and also verify whether that person is really Worthy Of Me, By any means I deem necessary. So, if a 90 day probationary period is what I feel I REQUIRE to help my decision process and the person proposing can't do that, then it's a NO for me bruh. Trust, love, loyalty, and a lifetime commitment is earned, not just given. So, I'm not just giving a "Yes" to a marriage proposal unless it's mutually earned and agreed upon. If I ever get married, I'm only doing it once, whether it lasts or end in divorce. #1HittaQuitta

With that being said....Don't surprise me with a marriage proposal without knowing and agreeing beforehand that WE are BOTH ready for commitment, or you may be the one SURPRISED😳#proceedwithcaution
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