The Proposal

Warning!!!!!!!! If you plan on asking me to marry you, please don't do it in front of family and friends, as I will need a 90 day probationary period to think about it before I answer. During that 90 day probationary period, you will be required to exchange cell phones and passwords among us from the moment you ask. After those things have been vetted appropriately between the two, I'll give you my acceptance or denial. If I say yes, then you can plan the surprise moment to publicly ask, on 1 knee, with a ring in front of an audience.

Many people say yes for the crowd and the moment, but hasn't come to their own decision or reconciled all their feelings before being popped the question in front of an audience of people and onlookers. As a result, people end up getting married to the wrong person for the sake of not ruining the surprise moment, or embarrassing the one who proposed. But I'd rather embarrass someone with an "I'll think about it" or "I'm not ready yet", than to leave them to rectify a broken heart after a loveless, pressured marriage, that ends in a bitter and emotional divorce.

Many people say yes, in hopes that they will grow to love the other person or fall in love as time passes. Others say yes because it's their Baby Momma or Baby Daddy. And, others say yes as a business deal and once the money leaves so do they. So, instead of saying yes for the wrong reasons and at a time when you know you aren't ready, how about having the discussion and the shared feelings, emotions, goals, beliefs, and desires that should accompany the proposal and potential lifetime commitment. I feel that taking this step will minimize marriage commitments made under false pretenses, and ultimately lower the divorce rates, and the number of children being dragged into custody battles and dysfunctional family environments.

You see, what I've learned, is that marriage is a serious commitment that requires personal sacrifice, but not something I have to have to make me complete. To know my worth is to know that marriage is not for everyone, and that I will always be worthy with or without a marriage proposal.

Furthermore, to know my worth, is to know and also verify whether that person is really Worthy Of Me, By any means I deem necessary. So, if a 90 day probationary period is what I feel I REQUIRE to help my decision process and the person proposing can't do that, then it's a NO for me bruh. Trust, love, loyalty, and a lifetime commitment is earned, not just given. So, I'm not just giving a "Yes" to a marriage proposal unless it's mutually earned and agreed upon. If I ever get married, I'm only doing it once, whether it lasts or end in divorce. #1HittaQuitta

With that being said....Don't surprise me with a marriage proposal without knowing and agreeing beforehand that WE are BOTH ready for commitment, or you may be the one SURPRISED😳#proceedwithcaution
#NoGamesWhenAdulting