Encouraging Suicide via texting

What I'm thinking:

I am not able to wrap my psyche around the idea of children coaching other kids to commit suicide via text and social media while claiming they love them.  Bullying incident.. Maybe...

I know there is a strong influence there, with love being involved, but where do you draw the line between listening to a person that claims they love you, and what you are willing to do to prove your love for them. I wouldn't dare do this but if we are going to do it we are going to do it together. #sametime #sidebyside not via text, social media, or over the phone.

Parents teach your kids about suicide but at the same time teach them about love and how true love doesn't require you to hurt yourself for the other person ... #Romeo&JulietWasAPlay but still they died together.  #JustMythoughts

Learn how to fight

What I've learned:

In every relationship there will be arguments and fights. But how you end the fight dictates the future of that relationship and how long it will last. Every time you have an ineffective argument or one that involves personal attacks and name calling, it takes a little bit from the relationship each time, and tears the other person down. Who wants to remain in a relationship that tears them down, more than lifts them up? More than likely NOBODY!!

So with that being said, learn how to argue effectively if you must argue and if you haven't mastered effective communication then maybe you shouldn't engage. Not knowing how to talk to people or how to respect people even in an argument, only leads to bigger problems and possibly lost relationships...#CheckYourself #BeforeYouWreckYourself

No Disrespect

What's on the Doc's mind:

You know, it really bothers me when black men start dating outside their race and then decide they want to bad mouth black women. As quiet as it's kept, I myself have dated outside of my race a time or two, but at no point and time did I, then or will I now, talk bad about, disrespect, or degrade black men.

See I have a problem with people that feel that just because you choose outside of your race that you have to talk bad about another to validate your choice or preference. When I dated outside of my race, I didn't have to validate or justify my choice by saying negative things about black men or how they've treated me in the past or any of their shortcomings at being "the one" for me.  Personally, I don't discriminate in love and considers myself an equal-opportunity lover. If you know how to act, appreciates my worth, and treat me as such, then you have just as much of an opportunity as the next man regardless of race and ethnicity. Many people miss " the one" by limiting themselves and their options.  I believe that love is transparent. Just like when you love the wrong person and you tell yourself and everyone else that you can't help who you love, the same applies to loving a person of a different color. Many of you won't agree and I'm ok with that. I don't post for validation or the likes, but to say what's on my mind. But anyway, all the reasons I've been hearing lately as to why black men choose to date outside of their race are bogus especially if it is predicated on what the black woman is or is not. You should be dating that person because you truly love them and your heart is in it. Not because your attempt at dating black women failed. Ask yourself what did YOU DO or DIDN'T DO while dating that black woman. What was your role??? Hmmm hmmm?? Anyway, those same generalizations you place on black women applies to every race, gender, and ethnic group. I can vouch for that.... I've seen it, assessed it, and diagnosed it...So to you that said that black women have an f'd up mentality... Guess what? Several People of different races and creeds, including yourself sir, have a f'd mentality, that's nothing new and certainly not a rarity. It's almost like the norm these days... Now how you feel about that? #RantOver

And there it is...... ~Dr. Rock Ramsey~

Don't Do it

The more I work, the longer I live, and the more I interact with humans, I continue to learn. Some things I've always known, but sometimes may need a reminder. Other things I pick up on as I go...

However, what I've learned:

You shouldn't be digging a ditch for someone when you're standing in a shallow grave yourself.... #PAUSE #LetThatMarinate

Killer access

The biggest enemy of a recovering addict is accessibility. The more access, or probability of access, to the thing you are addicted to, the greater the temptation and the desire to get it. Remove the ability and accessibility, cure the addict. Kill the access, kill the addiction... Until then. . .#MyThoughts #InMyPerfectWorld

Closed For The Holidays

Doc's Annual Black Friday Public Service Announcement

Face-tightening Moment but all in love and respect.. The foolery has begun 😐

Entering the Stage from Right....At center stage, grabs and taps the mic....clears throat..mic check 🗣HuuhNationn, HuuhNation (sibling insider)

Speaks....First Giving Honor to God, the Bishop, the Presiding Elder (aka Zinella), the WMS, the YPD, the Pastor, Saints, Members, and Friends.

In the church announcements today, Sis Dr. Wiley would like to provide a friendly reminder that the wrongly perceived "Wiley Bank & Trust" is Closed per the lending manager. All loan apps, "let me hold something* apps, and "can I get a favor" apps will be DENIED during the Holidays, and perhaps year around, due to a serious violation of the Prompt Payment clause of the agreement. You can thank those that have previously instated their own clause of "No or Slow" Payment, unbeknownst to me. Christmas, Birthdays, and the first day of school comes at the same time each year giving you adequate time to plan for each of these life events accordingly. Tis is not the season to be asking for money when others want and need their money to buy and give to their families, friends, and loved ones. And even though they may have it to give, you should not be counting people's pockets. If you must borrow, go to a real bank.

The Bank Manager has decided to let you be accountable for your money, your time, and your actions and learn how to be responsible with money, plan for things, and utilize your time effectively. The said bank is tired of getting burnt financially while trying to genuinely help "undeserving" people, both friends and family and also those I don't consider to be either. Not all are undeserving. There are those I will help in a heartbeat, no questions asked, and I'm sure they all know who they are.

So, should there be any loans or apps ever in the future, for consideration, they will all be subject to a credit check, a background check, and a signing of a promissory note. Most lenders do it, so why can't I? Since people think I'm a bank let's proceed like one. All business, nothing personal. My mom use to say if you give it don't expect it back. This is true in a personal sense, but not a business sense.

So, if you just started reaching out to me by phone, text, Facebook inbox, Instagram, or Twitter since Nov. 1 the answer is NO so don't bother. You are the same ones that forfeited on your promise to pay and cut off all contact after New Year's. I didn't forget, I'm busy and about a lot of things but forgetting how I was treated isn't one. You mad or Nah.. it's OK.

And there it is... Cold, hard truth but somebody has to say it... Sorry Not Sorry. Now let the church say Amen.

Drops the mic🎤...exits the stage to the left✌🏾

#lessonslearned #getMoney #HustleHard #NotSelfish #NotStingy  #JustNotEnablingAnymore #AdvancedNotice #TheRealest #KeepingIt100 #iAintGotItq

Making The Season Bright

My Attempt At Making The Season Bright:

Many of you might not remember my post last week asking the Lord for some "other people money". Which is money to bless other people. Well my reason for that is this for example, I talked to a divorced single Mom and her three kids the other day. During the conversation I asked if they were ready for Christmas. They all stopped and started looking at each other with this "caught off guard" look about them. So, Mom who has fallen on some really hard times over the last two years, began to explain how they were not prepared and planning on celebrating Christmas this year. She explained recently being diagnosed with Cancer, having no job, and needing to make sure she had enough money for rent. She said all they've been through and have been dealing with, have caused them to decide not to celebrate at all this year. I felt like I had mud on my face but "talkative" me asked, " So are you guys at least going to cook Christmas dinner." And Mom explained, that they would eat, but not sure what they were going to have, but she knows it won't be anything big. It was at that moment I guess my facial expression let off to the sadness that quickly changed my smile to a serious look.

At that moment, the little boy said, It's OK Ms. Marilyn, I'm sad too, but I'm use to it. This is the second year in a row we won't have Christmas. We don't even have a tree but I know if my Momma could get us one she would." At this point Mom began to cry. I felt soooo bad. I gave her a hug and I told her that Christmas was not about gifts, food, and trees and that it was about family, love, warmth, and celebrating Jesus. (All along in my head saying to myself.. This can't be and I won't let it be.. Not on my watch.) Mom agreed with me and said, she's glad she has understanding children, and that they don't try to make her feel bad about it, and knows that if things could be different she would do all she could for them. All the kids began to tell her not to cry and that it was OK and Christmas doesn't matter. Me, feeling bad for even bringing it up.

Well to make a long story short, tomorrow I'm giving them a Christmas Tree, with lights, and ornaments to decorate it with, and a $75 Fry's Grocery Gift Card to get food so they can have Christmas Dinner. On the day we talked, I also gave them an open invitation to share in the Holidays at my house with me and my family on Christmas Day.

I didn't tell all of you this for any accolades or likes, but I want this show of love to move you guys to do the same thing or some  similar small act of kindness during the holidays because you never know when it could be you in need.

#SmallActsOfKindness #ChristmasIsCaring #ShareTheLoveShareTheJoy