Wednesday, May 25, 2016

What Fault is it of Mine

This is for somebody. I know it because it hit me out of nowhere....#Conviction #ReceiveIt #UseMeLord

What fault is it of mine?

It's time out for blaming others for our hurt, loss, and shortcomings....
It's time to face the blame of your actions and the role you played in whatever transpired..
No you may not have been the abuser but you stayed and endured the abuse...
No you may not have been the cheater but you stayed after the infidelity..
Yes you work hard but still broke but did you budget accordingly, do without some things in order to help you live within your means or did you decide to do what it take to get a better job with better pay.
Yes you lost your job but ask yourself how was your performance or was that the job God gave you or you just took.
Yes you did everything to save your marriage but was that marriage ordained by you and him or by God?
If we be patient and get somewhere and get quiet we can hear from God and make less of the mistakes we want to blame others for.
People can only do to us what we allow them to. Yes some things will happen beyond our control but in most situations you have a choice to be a victim or a conquerer of your circumstance or situation. Deal with you more and blame others less....
What is your part in it? What fault is it of yours? ~Dr  Rock Ramsey~

Saturday, April 16, 2016

What I've learned

What I've learned: Sometimes we cause ourselves mental anguish by not living our truths. We trap ourselves in our own minds for fear of letting people see the real us. The more we put up a facade, the more our hidden/REAL selves stay buried in our minds. It's not until we embrace who we are, love who we are, and be who we are, that we start to be free and clear of those thoughts that keeps up bound. It's not until then that we live a happy, healthy life, knowing that all the things we tried to hide were never worth hiding at all. Who knows, It might even be that you are the only one thinking and projecting those thoughts on yourself.

Moral of the story: Be yourself, be true to you, free your mind, and don't worry about what people may think. Only your thoughts of yourself count. As long as humans walk the Earth, they will judge you. That's a fact of life. So don't suffocate or trap yourself in your own mind with bad thoughts of yourself for fear of what humans may think or say.
~Changing Lives through Changing Minds ~ #DrRockRamsey

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

My life is not perfect, it's balanced....

My life is not perfect, it's balanced....

I have the same problems and woes as everybody else. I go through struggles and I have victories. I go through ups and down just as I cry and laugh. I sing and dance and I mope around and complain. I get tired of people and I love to be around people. I hate my job one day and love it the next. I get mad at people at times and I uplift those same people at times. I even have those days when I feel fat and ugly, but I also have those days where I feel fine, sexy, and beautiful. I have financial woes and I have financial blessings, I have sickness at times and perfectly healthy at others.

I miss loved ones lost and I celebrate those still here. I've been through all kinds of heartbreaks and I've broken hearts. I've been cheated on, lied to, and betrayed just as I've cheated, lied, and betrayed. I've been good and I've even been bad. But at the end of the day I know how to find my balance in life and I try not to repeat or embrace the negatives more than the positives.

Because I am human, I will make mistakes and bad decisions, and hope to learn from them but there are many good decisions made as well.  I know when to budget and when it's OK to splurge. I know when it's time to handle business and I know when it's time to play. I know when it's time to relax and give my body a rest and I know how and when to activate beast mode.

After its all said and done, and if my balance is out of sync, I know how to find a quiet place and think things through. And if my balance is to be off kilter for any reason, I try and prefer, to push it more towards the happy, positive, joyful, and righteous meter as it makes me feel better physically.

My blues are not like yours but our strive for balance can be the same. So No, my life is not perfect it's balanced...  #RealTalk #DontJudgeMe #100~Dr. Rock Ramsey~

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Not Selfish At All

For a person to say that I think I'm always right and perfect and that i think I'm better than other people just further let's me know that they don't really know me at all.  You may know of me, but you really don't know me at all. I don't have to explain my being, or the plight of who i really am, as i owe no man/woman an explanation of who i am and what i stand for.  I let my life and my good deeds speak for me.  Maybe YOU think I'm better than YOU, or else you would simply be unbothered by me or the life i live. 

I am the first to tell anyone I'm not perfect and that I'm "just regular", but i will also give them a written or verbal disclaimer that i am truly blessed and highly favored by the Man Above. I share my life with the world to be an inspiration and to show that in spite of everything i do, be it good or bad, God continues to bless me and He can do the same for the next person. And when He blessed me, I in turn bless others without hesitation. I love hard and have only good intentions and positive energy toward others.  If you are not receiving  that positive energy,  perhaps it's because of your negative disposition, NOT MINE! I am beyond blessed and its not by my doing at all, as i am no better than the next man/woman. But i will say, i will not apologize for my accomplishments or blessings because the same way i grind, pray, give to others, and tithe, you can too. So NO, i will not feel bad or guilty, nor as if I'm better than anyone else for that matter,  just to spare your feelings or make you feel better.  I promote others as much as i promote and love myself, but i will not be demoted, or change who i am because you think or "feel" like I think I'm better than others or can do no wrong. .this is where you get off at because i must keep it moving...#thenerveofyou #OnWithMyVacation #NiceTryMyFriend #tooblessedtobeStressed #PettyCrockerDontCookHere

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Faithful Over Little

If You Want More, You Must be Faithful in Little

Many are on a career path, but few seem to be on a character path. All too frequently who we are is discarded upon the altar of ambition.

By Dennis Rainey

Are you trusted by your friends? Are you reliable? Can others count on you? Do you want to know how to be an original in a culture of copycats? Do you want to be a part of a vanishing breed in today's generation?

If so, then become a person who is faithful. You know, a person who follows through. One whom others can count on whether things are rough or smooth. His word is good on the little stuff as well as the mammoth, gargantuan tasks. He's the kind of person who promises to call—and does so—on time. He says he'll do it and he does it—exactly like you asked it to be done.

Are you known as a faithful person? If you are, then here are a few of the words that can be used to describe you: trustworthy, dependable, reliable, true-blue, and responsible. All of the names are saturated with one reoccurring theme: Character. Character quietly, yet convincingly, says, "You can count on me—at any cost!"

Being faithful with little
I sense in our society a growing feeling of entitlement, such as, "I deserve a promotion (without the process)" ... "I deserve the position, prestige, and responsibility without having to pay the price and be faithful today."

Many are on a career path, but few seem to be on a character path. All too frequently who we are is discarded upon the altar of ambition.

Today our oatmeal is ready to eat in 60 seconds, our prescription lenses are ready to be picked up in 60 minutes, and our house can be built in 60 days. We are a culture that is used to getting what we want instantly. We aren't used to working patiently, or waiting on anything—even a hamburger.

Jesus taught, "He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a little thing is unrighteous also in much. If therefore you have not been faithful in the use of unrighteous riches, who will entrust the true riches to you?" (Luke 16:11).

What we want today is the much more without the very little. We want the tip without the toil, the gain without the grind, the sweets without the sweat, the prize without the pain, and the perks without the perseverance. Today, duty, diligence, hard work, and attention to details are a rare commodity in any endeavor—whether it be at home, at work, or at church.

Could it be that we are chasing after the wrong thing? Do we want to have it our way regardless of what it costs us? Could it be that faithfulness at home is shredded by the pursuit of just one more dollar at work?

We've become a sloppy generation with all kinds of cover-ups for the unfaithful. Like, "It just fell through the cracks!" (Some today seem to have a pretty broad measurement of the cracks!) Or, "I just forgot—are you sure the deadline was yesterday?" My favorite is "I didn't have time." Better stated, "Other priorities were chosen before your thing got done."

I struggle with being faithful in little too. Confession may be good for the soul, but it's bad for the reputation!

Some things to consider

You might be asking, "I agree with you, but how do I know if I am viewed as a faithful person by others?" Perhaps the following questions would be good for you to consider:

Do others constantly have to remind you to get things done? Do you habitually forget to follow through?
What does your word mean to you? Is it a premium seal that secures the deal? Or is it a flimsy wrapper that can be taken off and thrown away with ease?
Do you return your phone calls?
Do your children believe you when you promise to do something with them?

If you promise you'll be home, do you call if you're going to be late? Deadlines are missed occasionally—things do derail us unexpectedly—a call or a note that the deadline is going to be missed places value on the other person's expectation and lets them know you are responsible and can be trusted.

Maybe you are faithful—a cut above the herd, but I'll bet you work near others who could use a double dose of faithfulness. What if suddenly we had a dramatic rash of people falling all over one another trying to be faithful in the little things in their work? Do you think excellence would be a mere myth?

What would happen in our homes if there was an epidemic of husbands and wives infected with being faithful in the little things in their relationship with each other, their children, and their parents? What if we really did do what we promised one another? What would happen to the next generation if we trained our children to be faithful in little as well as to be intelligent and athletic? Are we raising a generation of children that will embrace selfish pursuits or faithfulness? If they don't learn to be faithful from you then what kind of leaders, workers, husbands and wives, and fathers and mothers will they make? And if you don't teach them, who will?

And what do you think would be the impact of Christians on society if they replaced faithfulness and obedience toward God in the place of compromise and unfaithfulness? Perhaps the salt would become truly "salty" again.

But our values are all fouled up and sticky with the things the world values. Do we admire the man who is successful or faithful? Do we give awards for production or for trustworthiness? Are moms honored for slugging it out in the trenches and raising a family or do we sling a little dirt on the occupation by always talking about the women who are making it "big time" in the business world?

Since Jesus said that "the much more" depended upon our faithfulness, then why not join a growing number of Christians who are giving faithfulness the standing ovation it deserves. How about cheering your family members on for:

a faithful act that was performed when no one was apparently watching.

your husband who was honest in preparing your income tax returns.

a mother who is faithfully taking the time to rear the next generation (so much of her work is unseen and unappreciated by others).

a child who tells the truth instead of lying even though the consequences are painful.

How do you view the details? As picky things to be ignored or that get in your way? Or as a stepping stone to receiving the true riches of the kingdom?

Value. Character. Faithfulness.

As Chuck Swindoll says, "It's never too late to start doing what is right."

Want much more? Then do the little—faithfully.

Copyright © 2006 by FamilyLife. All rights reserved.

Meet the Author: Dennis Rainey

Dennis Rainey
Dennis Rainey is the president and chief executive officer of FamilyLife, a subsidiary of Campus Crusade for Christ. Since the organization began in 1976, Dennis' leadership has enabled FamilyLife to grow into a dynamic and vital ministry that offers families blueprints for living godly lives.  Dennis is host of FamilyLife Today radio program and has written numerous books.  He and his wife, Barbara, live near Little Rock, Arkansas.  They have six children and many grandchildren.

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Dead Weight....

Dead weight ass "chronic daters" that don't bring shit to the table, and work, but can barely feed and take care of themselves, and don't contribute to the household, need to sit their asses down and stop trying to call shots and request things. You don't pay any bills, but steady sucking up AC, enjoying the cable, and washing/drying clothes, don't pay for any gas or buy food, but yet riding/driving your boo car like it's your own, and eating good and living high on the hog. You don't buy no gifts, no flowers, or even initiate a date night for fear of having to pay since it was your idea, but hang out with your friends, buying and spending all night, and even take trips out of town with them, but can't afford a date. Please believe me, it won't be long before he/she recognizes the dead, but expensive, weight you are and move on to someone less complicated and willing to provide for them even though they have their own... Real Talk! #childBoo #maleOrFemale #tag'emIfYouKnow'em #youmadornah

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

No Accountability

Real Talk:

No one has relationship accountability anymore. There are so many options out there and people that will allow you to do what you want, treat them the way you want, and act any kind of way that you want, until there is no reason to fix a behavior that someone that's into you points out to you. You'd rather move on to the next one hoping they will not try to "change" you or be satisfied with your half effort or lack of regard for relationship standards.

We have become an entitled society where we feel that we don't have to work hard for nothing. If it causes us heart burn or require us to work harder, we drop that and move on to something easier until the "something easier" requires work or attention.

Relationships back in the day during my parents times lasted for years. People dated all through high school and you knew who couples were. There was know guessing as to whether they were dating and in most cases those high school couples end up marrying and having kids. I'm not saying those relationships were perfect, but I am saying that many of them had staying power and were devoted to their marriage and kids and struggled to keep it together. However, these days the entitled earthlings are about every struggle but the struggle of love and creating a bond and lasting relationship. Because there is a huge number of women to men in current times, does not mean that in a scenario where there are 10 women to 1 man, that the 1 man must try all 10 women. Or vice versa.

Life is hard itself, must we make love and finding someone to respect, honor, cherish, and build with even harder? If we become the person we want to fall in love with and if we sacrifice the thought of everything being easy and handed to us without putting in work, we will see that finding and maintaining love is not that hard at all. We will find that it is easier to trust people and see the good in them before the bad. I'm not saying to stay in a loveless relationship and I'm not saying to be strung along trying to jump through imaginary hoops for someone that's not your equal or doesn't appreciate you, once you realize it's REALLY not worth the effort. But I am saying to at least give it a true go and 100% before so easily throwing in the towel.

There will be instances that you will have to accept things about a person that perhaps isn't quite what you asked for, but you can find in a 5'7" tall person the same qualities as you would find in a 6'3" tall person. Small sacrifices are to be made in a world full of imperfections and imperfect people.

My Smokey told me that a man knows what he wants with a woman within 3 months of knowing them. He said they know if they want to marry you, play around with you when it's convenient for them, or just keep you hanging around with no plans of marrying. This may not be true, but I believe everything My Smokey tells me is the Gospel..... Well SOME things. But, I'm sure that such insight on women is available as well, but I can only speak on what was told to me.

Anyway, all I'm saying is stop swapping relationships like underwear because of what you deem as something you don't have to put up with, and due to being spoiled with other options and availability. Find that one person that's worth the fight and sacrifice. Don't move on too soon because it's difficult. Hell all relationships are difficult. And don't stick around for years when you know it's a bad situation or know that the person is never going to marry you. It seems like we work harder to keep bad and unhealthy relationships going, but quick to drop those with potential.... Smh my people my people.... Wake up Grown Americans..... Let's start over, back to the way things were (in my Miles Jaye voice)... But real talk.... Accept responsibility, develop accountability, and put in work for your relationships and stop taking love for granted before you lose it or never get the chance to experience it, with your many options having behinds....

I'm Dr. Rock Ramsey and I approved this message.