Killer access

The biggest enemy of a recovering addict is accessibility. The more access, or probability of access, to the thing you are addicted to, the greater the temptation and the desire to get it. Remove the ability and accessibility, cure the addict. Kill the access, kill the addiction... Until then. . .#MyThoughts #InMyPerfectWorld

Closed For The Holidays

Doc's Annual Black Friday Public Service Announcement

Face-tightening Moment but all in love and respect.. The foolery has begun 😐

Entering the Stage from Right....At center stage, grabs and taps the mic....clears throat..mic check 🗣HuuhNationn, HuuhNation (sibling insider)

Speaks....First Giving Honor to God, the Bishop, the Presiding Elder (aka Zinella), the WMS, the YPD, the Pastor, Saints, Members, and Friends.

In the church announcements today, Sis Dr. Wiley would like to provide a friendly reminder that the wrongly perceived "Wiley Bank & Trust" is Closed per the lending manager. All loan apps, "let me hold something* apps, and "can I get a favor" apps will be DENIED during the Holidays, and perhaps year around, due to a serious violation of the Prompt Payment clause of the agreement. You can thank those that have previously instated their own clause of "No or Slow" Payment, unbeknownst to me. Christmas, Birthdays, and the first day of school comes at the same time each year giving you adequate time to plan for each of these life events accordingly. Tis is not the season to be asking for money when others want and need their money to buy and give to their families, friends, and loved ones. And even though they may have it to give, you should not be counting people's pockets. If you must borrow, go to a real bank.

The Bank Manager has decided to let you be accountable for your money, your time, and your actions and learn how to be responsible with money, plan for things, and utilize your time effectively. The said bank is tired of getting burnt financially while trying to genuinely help "undeserving" people, both friends and family and also those I don't consider to be either. Not all are undeserving. There are those I will help in a heartbeat, no questions asked, and I'm sure they all know who they are.

So, should there be any loans or apps ever in the future, for consideration, they will all be subject to a credit check, a background check, and a signing of a promissory note. Most lenders do it, so why can't I? Since people think I'm a bank let's proceed like one. All business, nothing personal. My mom use to say if you give it don't expect it back. This is true in a personal sense, but not a business sense.

So, if you just started reaching out to me by phone, text, Facebook inbox, Instagram, or Twitter since Nov. 1 the answer is NO so don't bother. You are the same ones that forfeited on your promise to pay and cut off all contact after New Year's. I didn't forget, I'm busy and about a lot of things but forgetting how I was treated isn't one. You mad or Nah.. it's OK.

And there it is... Cold, hard truth but somebody has to say it... Sorry Not Sorry. Now let the church say Amen.

Drops the mic🎤...exits the stage to the left✌🏾

#lessonslearned #getMoney #HustleHard #NotSelfish #NotStingy  #JustNotEnablingAnymore #AdvancedNotice #TheRealest #KeepingIt100 #iAintGotItq

Making The Season Bright

My Attempt At Making The Season Bright:

Many of you might not remember my post last week asking the Lord for some "other people money". Which is money to bless other people. Well my reason for that is this for example, I talked to a divorced single Mom and her three kids the other day. During the conversation I asked if they were ready for Christmas. They all stopped and started looking at each other with this "caught off guard" look about them. So, Mom who has fallen on some really hard times over the last two years, began to explain how they were not prepared and planning on celebrating Christmas this year. She explained recently being diagnosed with Cancer, having no job, and needing to make sure she had enough money for rent. She said all they've been through and have been dealing with, have caused them to decide not to celebrate at all this year. I felt like I had mud on my face but "talkative" me asked, " So are you guys at least going to cook Christmas dinner." And Mom explained, that they would eat, but not sure what they were going to have, but she knows it won't be anything big. It was at that moment I guess my facial expression let off to the sadness that quickly changed my smile to a serious look.

At that moment, the little boy said, It's OK Ms. Marilyn, I'm sad too, but I'm use to it. This is the second year in a row we won't have Christmas. We don't even have a tree but I know if my Momma could get us one she would." At this point Mom began to cry. I felt soooo bad. I gave her a hug and I told her that Christmas was not about gifts, food, and trees and that it was about family, love, warmth, and celebrating Jesus. (All along in my head saying to myself.. This can't be and I won't let it be.. Not on my watch.) Mom agreed with me and said, she's glad she has understanding children, and that they don't try to make her feel bad about it, and knows that if things could be different she would do all she could for them. All the kids began to tell her not to cry and that it was OK and Christmas doesn't matter. Me, feeling bad for even bringing it up.

Well to make a long story short, tomorrow I'm giving them a Christmas Tree, with lights, and ornaments to decorate it with, and a $75 Fry's Grocery Gift Card to get food so they can have Christmas Dinner. On the day we talked, I also gave them an open invitation to share in the Holidays at my house with me and my family on Christmas Day.

I didn't tell all of you this for any accolades or likes, but I want this show of love to move you guys to do the same thing or some  similar small act of kindness during the holidays because you never know when it could be you in need.

#SmallActsOfKindness #ChristmasIsCaring #ShareTheLoveShareTheJoy

Because i got tired

I got tired of waiting for you to hurt me again, so I had to hurt myself by leaving....

I got tired of waiting for you to love me, so I loved myself by leaving you...

In Due Time

Healing will come in due time. Take this time to reflect and give every emotion it's moment and don't rush it. It's when we try to force a feeling out or usher one in that we misjudge things and second guess ourselves.

Not My Normal

What I've learned:

If you are not careful, people will swoop you up and draw you into to their twisted world and way of living, that they call normal, and have you calling that very dysfunctional way of life your own normal... Know when the situation is toxic, unfulfilling, and undesirable and when it's time to get out and reestablish your own norms. There's nothing more dissatisfying than realizing you've been unhappy and miserable, because you accepted someone else's dysfunctional way of life as your own. Being sucked into a certain way of life that's not conducive to you, is a mishandling of your own truths and a disservice to your own growth. Shut it down and move on.. #HardToDoButWorthIt #ItTakesTime #MakeItYourGoal

Half @$$

Living in a half @$$ world, with a bunch of half @$$ people, with half @$$ ideas, putting forth half @$$ efforts....smh...what must a woman do to get something "WHOLE" in this lifetime?????? Geeesh!! #makeithappenonyourown

The Lack Thereof

Lack of response
Lack of attention
Lack of acknowledgement
And lack of compassion makes for a dying thing whether it's life, relationships, friendships, or goals. So Queens, respond to life's challenges, pay attention to the way you treat others, acknowledge others, and show compassion even when it may not benefit you.

Picture Perfect

When you wake up each morning understand that it's your canvas and your paint. The only person that gets credit for your daily artwork is you. Make it picture perfect and make it come alive. ~Dr. Marilyn Wiley~ #akaDrRockRamsey